“Merck More than a Mother” supports Jackline Mwende - a victim of infertility stigma in Kenya
Through “Empowering Berna” Project, Merck aims to empower infertile women economically and socially across Africa.
Jackline Mwende
“Merck More than a Mother” initiative will support Jackline Mwende, the recent victim of infertility stigma, throughout the rest of her life after having her hands brutally chopped off for failing to bear children after seven years of marriage. Merck aims to empower infertile women across the continent through access to information, health and change of mind-set through their initiative that was launched in June 2015 - “Merck More than a Mother.”
“Jackline Mwende, a young woman of 27 years from Masii, Machakos County in Kenya had her hands hacked off - not by thieves but by her own husband for failing to conceive, even though he was the one with fertility problems. Her husband told her 'today is your last day'. It is so shocking that someone would go to such an extent to batter his own wife and leave her nearly dead. Infertility should never be a reason to separate, hurt or kill your partner. There are so many options out there available to manage infertility,” said Hon. Joyce Lay, Member of Parliament and the ambassador for ‘Merck More than a Mother’ in Kenya.
“Through ‘Empowering Berna’ project, Merck will support Jackline Mwende throughout the rest of her life to empower and enable her to become an independent productive member in society. ‘Merck More than a Mother’ initiative will provide Mwende with a monthly income of $250, then will establish a business for her in which she will be able to generate a sustainable monthly income of not less than $250.
At the same time Merck will provide her with the needed physical and physiological rehabilitation to enable her to support herself and stand on her own two feet despite the challenge of her brutal disability that was caused by the stigma of infertility – even though her husband is the one who was found with the infertility problem, yet she is still the one who bore the devastating consequences of the public stigma associated with it," said Rasha Kelej, Chief Social Officer, Merck Healthcare.
Hon. Joyce Lay with Jackline Mwende and her parents as they receive the support from “Merck More than a Mother”
“Mwende didn't deserve what she went through and especially because her husband is the one who was found with the infertility problem and not her. Society, government and all stakeholders need to continue to join hands with Merck in their campaign to encourage the acceptance of people living with infertility because the stigma associated with infertility puts pressure on them to a point where they do crazy and criminal things. We need to know that it's a shared responsibility, not just for the couple but for the society too,” Lay added.
Jackline Mwende with her parents at their home in Machakos, Kenya
"Jackline Mwende's story is the reason all people should appreciate ‘Merck More than a Mother’ initiative. No sane person should torture a woman for failing to produce children. Men should not think that their failure to be a biological father is due to women's infertility. Why torture a fellow human being and inflict such permanent bodily harm for a fault that could be yours? No amount of justice in the courts of law will bring back Mwende’s arms. Justice will only prevail if Mwende’s case marks a turning point in society that appreciates one fact- "that women are women irrespective of their ability to bear children- they need to be respected," emphasized Hon. Sarah Opendi, Uganda Minister of State of Health and the Uganda ambassador of ‘Merck More than a Mother’.
"This terrible violence Mwende suffered has emphasized the significance of ‘Merck More than a Mother’ initiative for Africa. ‘Merck More than a Mother’ will continue working closely with partners to create a culture shift and to empower infertile women economically and socially through "Empowering Berna" Project to ensure no other woman in Africa should ever go through such violence, humiliation or misery again," Rasha Kelej emphasized.
Mwende's husband has been accused of attempting to kill her and is waiting for his trial.
About “Merck More than a Mother” initiative
In many cultures, childless women still suffer discrimination, stigma and ostracism. Infertility can transform from an acute, private distress into a harsh public stigma with complex and devastating consequences. An inability to have a child or to become pregnant can result in being greatly isolated, disinherited or assaulted. This may result in divorce or physical and psychological violence.
“Merck More than a Mother” initiative aims to define interventions to reduce the stigma and social suffering of infertile women, empower them and raise awareness about male infertility and the necessity for a team approach to family building among couples across the continent.
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), lower levels of development are thought to be associated with higher levels of non-genetic and preventable causes of infertility. For instance, poor nutrition, untreated sexually transmitted infections (STIs), unsafe abortion, consequences of infections caused by the practice of female genital mutilation (FGM) or child marriage, exposure to smoking, leaded petrol and other environmental pollutants can lead to infertility.
About “Empowering Berna” Project
“It is very important to empower infertile women through improving access to awareness, health and change of mindset so they can bear children as part of their human rights. In case they can no longer be treated, ‘Empowering Berna’ project will contribute towards empowering and training them to establish their own small business so that they can be independent and re-build their own lives, a woman is more than a mother, ‘Empowering Berna’ initiative will prove this every day.” Rasha Kelej, Chief Social Officer of Merck Healthcare.
To watch the transformation of childless women after meeting “Merck More than a Mother” please watch videos below.
Stories of seven infertile women who have been supported through the “Empowering Berna” Project:
- Grace Kambini, Kenya
- Berna Amullen, Uganda
- Chinelo Azodo, Nigeria
- Noonkipa Mpalush, Kenya
- Ijeoma Ezeaku, Nigeria
- Oluchi Omenife, Nigeria
- Nneka Omenife, Nigeria
Jackline Mwende tells “Merck More than a Mother” her devastating story - read below
“I was brutally slashed by my husband at my home in Masii, Machakos County, Kenya for failing to conceive after seven years of marriage...even though my husband was the one with fertility problems. He told me 'today is your last day…”
Jackline tells her story.
Mwende who says she had a stable upbringing in a loving home where she grew up with six of her siblings narrates how she came to lose her both hands because of not being able to conceive.
Her parents did their best to take her to school from kindergarten up to primary school class 8. Upon completing her studies, Mwende enrolled in a tailoring school where she learnt how to sew and make garments. It was at this school that she met and fell in love with Stephen Ngila – her husband. They got married in 2011.
A year into the marriage and with no child, Mwende began to notice changes in her husband who she knew to be a ‘born-again’ Christian. “He went back to ‘darkness’ and started taking alcohol, chewing miraa (Khat) and smoking. He also started to become abusive. It was at this point that I confided in my parents, who were also wondering why I had not become pregnant yet. They advised me to leave the marriage since it was becoming abusive,” Mwende narrates.
“As an avid church goer, I also sought advice from my pastor,” she adds. Even at the start of the violence in the marriage, both she and Ngila would go to seek counselling from him. The pastor advised both of them to live in harmony; however, Ngila ignored. The pastor advised her to stay with her husband, of which she tried as long as she could.
Both Mwende and Ngila went to hospital for diagnosis as to why they could not get children. It was confirmed that Ngila was infertile. “The doctor however said they could try to rectify his condition and assigned him medical visits which he never honored,” a visibly distraught Mwende added. Ngila, she said, “lived in denial”.
“I constantly pleaded with Ngila to go to hospital to seek a treatment for his infertility, but he always made up excuses. He would say that he would go after work but never did,” she said sadly.
This was just the beginning of a long and a painful journey, with a man who now knew he had a health condition barring him from having children. “He even started unusual quarrels and coming home or not showing up at all,” Mwende said of her husband, a tailor based in Masii town.
Their marriage continued to get strained and the abuse increased because Mwende had not borne a child. On several occasions, the couple wound up at the police station due to their fights and arguments. The couple eventually separated and Mwende set up her own small shop from where she was getting some income to support herself and even her parents.
Mwende says she has been living alone for a year in their two bedroom brick house, which they built from hard earned savings. “We bought a plot and built a house which all along…” she poses as she attempts to wipe her watery eyes with her left elbow and continues: “We wanted to see our children play in the compound, have a family that would give us the true meaning of life and our hard work.”
However it became apparent on July 24, 2016 when she was attacked that, “all my dreams were just that,” Mwende said.
On that day in the evening, Mwende says; she was peacefully having her dinner when she heard a knock on the door. On opening the door, her husband Ngila started to attack her and cut off her left hand with a machete. In shock, Mwende collapsed on the floor while Ngila continued to hit her with the machete on her face, and cut off her other right hand.
“Today you have decided to kill me?” Mwende recalls screaming at Ngila. His intent was to kill her, but she continued screaming until her neighbors came to her rescue, but Ngila escaped. She was taken to the hospital for treatment and she is currently on medication and nursing her wounds – which will always be a constant reminder that the reason of her misery is because she never bore any children.
“You know, sometimes when people do such things, they are not in control of themselves. He could have been under the influence of alcohol. It can affect him. Nimemsamehe (I have forgiven him),” Mwende said.
“If it is God’s will that I do not have a child, I am content with this,” Mwende bravely said. She is hopeful for her future and grateful for all the support the community and Merck have given her. She would not like any other couple to go through what she has experienced and advises couples to seek solutions together if they cannot have a child, and visit the hospital for check-up regularly.
Mwende’s mother, Jane Munyoki says that her pain is still fresh and she knows her daughter’s life will never be the same. “I will never forgive that man. I want him sentenced to death. I would rather be killed than see my daughter return to that devil, she says”. She narrated the pain she continues to undergo, “seeing a daughter whom I gave out healthy, now being fed and cleaned. It hurts me a lot,” she says.
Mwende advices married couples: “Nobody should stay in an abusive relationship just to be seen to be married.”
“Through ‘Empowering Berna’ project, Merck will support Jackline Mwende throughout the rest of her life to empower and enable her to become an independent productive member in society. ‘Merck More than a Mother’ initiative will provide Mwende with a monthly income of $250, then will establish a business for her in which she will be able to generate a sustainable monthly income of not less than $250.
At the same time Merck will provide her with the needed physical and physiological rehabilitation to enable her to support herself and stand on her own two feet despite the challenge of her brutal disability that was caused by the stigma of infertility – even though her husband is the one who was found with the infertility problem, yet she is still the one who bore the devastating consequences of the public stigma associated with it," said Rasha Kelej, Chief Social Officer, Merck Healthcare.
"This terrible violence Mwende suffered has emphasized the significance of ‘Merck More than a Mother’ initiative for Africa. ‘Merck More than a Mother’ will continue working closely with partners to create a culture shift and to empower infertile women economically and socially through "Empowering Berna" Project to ensure no other woman in Africa should ever go through such violence, humiliation or misery again," Kelej emphasized.
Mwende's husband has been accused of attempting to kill her and is waiting for his trial.